My experience with a flat chest

by Stella
(UK)

I am a 26 year old Asian girl with very very small boobs. I have always been flat (about 32aaa to 34 aa?) until I had my baby at 24, when my boobs expanded to 34b at their fullest. Since then they have shrunk to something like 32aa. My realisations are as follows:

Guys have made fun of my flat chest in the past, at the beach and in public places. These guys were obviously very shallow and not worth my attention. They would be the same type to make fun of someone with deformed limbs or a big butt. They have been brainwashed into accepting only the hollywood ideal portrayed to impressionable young boys and girls. They just weren't my type anyways so why bother worrying about what they thought.

My bf loves me inside and out, including my personality, intellect, my 'nice butt' and figure. He is not a boobs man but he loves my boobs nevertheless. I'd like to expand on what some of the guys have said, that nice, decent, loving guys who are deserving of your love and attention are not going to care what sized boobs you have. Even if they are boobs men, they will love you too much to let that become an issue. What is more unattractive than small boobs (if indeed you deem them unattractive), is a nagging insecurity that requires constant affirmations and reassurance from your man. It kills romance and attraction towards you. Similarly guys who pressure their women to get breast implants should be dumped because that's like a woman pressuring her guy to get pec implants.

I breastfed amazingly well with small boobs. I am still doing so with a now 21 month old toddler as of today. Small boobs don't smother the baby's face and are easier for them to latch onto.

So even though i'm still in my mid 20s I have learnt to appreciate myself as a whole person. I have hangups about my skin and other features but all of my issues have diminished over time which makes me believe that if you concentrate on developing and loving yourself as a whole, and learn about yourself and what's important in life, all these silly worries about inadequacies will not be as important. Growing older and becoming more mature definitely helps with this process.