I was always fairly large chested at least a 36D. When I was 18, I got ugly stares from girls all the time. Nobody liked me. Guys used me. Hardly would a man look at my face while talking. It may as well have been the "girls" talking! I got unwanted attention all the time. On top of that, men were jerks to me. Pricks! Yet, they would hop in the sack in a second because they tried. I have had married men ogle me with their wives witnessing and it is not a good feeling to feel like a sex object. I don't miss it. But I do miss being able to wear certain styles without feeling self-conscious. I just don't get why the tops come down so low now. I hate clothes shopping and bra shopping. I had big breasts all the way up until last year. Between losing weight due to breastfeeding and stress, my girls have went awal on me. They definitely do sag because they were just so big and heavy. They don't make bras supportive like they should. I am now a 34A cup. Yes, I'm not happy with it because now shirts just look funny on me. My husband says he loves them though and I will try to believe him, but it's hard losing those boobs. I told him, I wished I always had A cups cause at least they would still be perky! This story made me want to cry because I actually considered getting implants, but I just don't have the nerve. The negative attention isn't worth it. Women with A cups are blessed because they stay perky and not back pain. And, they are cute in a bikini. Mine, not so much and that is where pectoral excersize will hopefully lift them up.
Jan 01, 2011 Rating
thank you for your courage by: missjay
Wow. Thank you for your honesty and courage. I have an A cup, sometimes a AA if I lose weight or get stressed. I never thought about breast implants until I was asked by a freind at 21. It never occurred to me that small breasts needed 'fixing' until people would ask me about it. I'm still shocked when people ask me, and I have to resist the urge to say 'No. Have you ever thought about getting a face/personality transplant?' When I was 25 I thought about it and I decided to get the boobies done. It was just a matter of saving the $. The process of saving and waiting caused me to soul search and really ask myself 'why?' Thank God I did as I realised I was making this decision to have full on, invasive, painful surgery because society and the media were telling me small breasts were not sexy, which I knew deep down was a load of s%&t. I also knew that if I got them done I would be wearing my insecurities on my chest. If I had a daughter I would be lying to her when I said beauty is not about what's on the outside. My mother had breast cancer and I felt somehow I was dishonouring women and her survival by playing around with nature. And I was born at 26 weeks so maybe I was just small and really lucky to be here. So I decided against the surgery. Years later I ran into the Plastic Surgeon on the street (random) and he said I never came back and I told him it was not for me and this huge smile spread across his face and he was so pleased! He said he didn't think I should get them done. I got the sense that doctor's will never tell you what they really think they will honour your wishes BUT they must perform surgeries all the time that make them sad or wish they could just give the girl a hug and say 'please don't do this, you're beautiful as you are'. I still have the thought that creeps into my head. I just have to be vigilant. I would hate a guy to talk to me or be interested because I have a big rack. I'm used to being me now (I'm 30). Yes I would love to have breasts to fill out clothes better but at what cost? A friend got them done and she said she wishes she had accepted herself as she was. They sit too high; they look too big and not natural. The only positive she said, was that she can get dressed without self-loathing now. I think you have to do what's right FOR YOU. No one can know what it’s like to live in your head and walk in your shoes. If I was richer 5 years ago I would be sitting here with a boob job, maybe regretting it, maybe not. But the decision I made to not get them is right for me, I want to find a man that loves me for me. As I will for him. Your story reaffirmed for me the decision I made. Your thoughts and feelings were exactly what I thought would happen to me if I went ahead. I wish you all the happiness in the world keep looking for that right guy, who will love your brains and your honesty. You go girl!!
Oct 05, 2010 Rating
to replace or remove! by: hibb
I found your story moving but I wonder how you will feel or what your decision will be when the time comes to remove the implants? I was a 34aa and after my first child i manged to get my dream come true - implants around a 34c. They made me feel fantastic . My partner of 20 years left me 2 years agao we had two kid and he went off with a younger woman who incidentley also had implants so I think this is just a man thing. now two years later i have to decide whether to remove them for good or replace at the age of 40 with no present partner. I am thinking about removal as i am hoping to study nursing in 5 months time and dont want any complications. however i am panicking as what will i think when i wake up from the op without them . Looking at this website thou i do feel better there did not seem many supportive materials or information then and this website makes me feel better i just want to have some kind of idea what my breast will look like then flat and with scars also reduced breast tissue as i am told . so i am i going to be worse when they out? does any one have any images apart from mastectomy? best wishes all x
Sep 06, 2010 Rating
Speechless by: Anonymous
I don't know what to say. My ex left me for a younger more bustier girl and I went into a one year depression. Yes that's right, I lost 30 pounds and was even more flatter. 2 years later he got married...to a different busty girl and eventually I grew to accept my fate. 10 years after he left me I gained back the weight (yay!)but I lacked self confidence. Today I am over him. No real boyfriend since so that sucks, now I am aging as well.Yep the years of sadness is taking its toll. So I stumbled on this website since I am looking about increasing my bust size. I don't think all that attention that you received would be bad for me at all, in fact, it might land me a good man LOL.
I found these great "extreme pushups" from Victoria Secret and they made me look soooo good. I wish I know about them 10 years ago. I never even wore a padded bra before. My only problem is, what would a guy think once you take them off? SO I am thinking surgery...
Sep 03, 2010 Rating
thank you for sharing 34c by: Anonymous
Thanks so much for sharing your story. it is kind of eerie because I am also a 32A, a doctor, and my boyfriend just left me for a former stripper with huge implants. Very similar to your story.
I have been sad and insecure since my boyfriend left, especially about my small breasts. He keeps posting pictures of him and his new girlfriend in a bikini on facebook, and it hurts. Thanks so much for sharing your story. i will try to appreciate what I have now, and same as you, there were other reasons we broke up. It just stings that he's with the new woman and I compare myself to her, but from now on, I will remember what you wrote and it will help me heal. Thanks!
Jul 17, 2010 Rating
reply to livia by: Ms 34C
hi livia, thanks! at this time i dont wanna go through the process of surgery again. you are right, it is very costly plus the many things i had to endure post-op. it wasnt a very good experience though i know i was in good hands and i am actually one of those few lucky ones who had a successful, relatively safe surgery. i mean ive heard of real-life horror stories, i mean, even celebrities who have all the money in the world do end up with really unaesthetic results. im very lucky i didnt end up like them. nevertheless, my procedure was still risky and not entirely complication-free. one surgery is enough for me. i am just accepting my new body right now and now working on losing some weight to keep things in proportion. :)
Jul 12, 2010 Rating
Thank you! 5 star ++ by: Livia
Dear "Ms 34C"!
Thank you very much for your submission. We truly appreciate it. It was very honest, came from your heart. We wish you the best and hope you can accept your new implants. Did you think about removing it? I know it costs a lot...
